Ask anyone who has has been there, is getting there, or maybe just realizing that it is around the bend, and they will tell you: getting older is not for the faint of heart. Not counting all the challenges with getting physically older, there are the many curveballs that life throws our way with work, family, and friendships, not to mention just maintaining mental balance in a world full of upheaval. Amidst all of these challenges and pitfalls which accumulate and perhaps even accelerate over time, who among us has not abandoned a dream, or retreated back home, or found themselves at an untenable place in life? How did that make you feel? Defeated? Upset? Depressed? Take heart, because it takes a lot of courage to say, “I quit”, and it could be one of the wisest choices you could have made.

Tift Merritt knows this firsthand, having returned to her native North Carolina feeling like she “had failed a little bit when I came home to my mama” after many years of pursuing her music career, to settle down and raise her daughter in a place where she felt people could lead “a good, simple life where the important things are right”. Her days making music her sole focus were over, as she took on other work, but as you will hear in our conversation, she never lost her desire to put love out into the world through her songs. After a long hiatus, she returned to Gold Pacific Studios in Nashville, and recorded her collection titled Sugar, an album that distills much of the wisdom that she accumulated over those years that at first felt like failure.

Songs heard in this episode:

“Everyday Singing” by Tift Merritt, from Sugar

“Sugar” by Tift Merritt, from Sugar, excerpt

“Fate Of Man Is Sarah’s Eyes” by Tift Merritt, from Sugar, excerpt

“Wild Women Don’t Have the Blues” by Ida Cox, from Wild Women Don’t Have the Blues, excerpt

“Library of Dust”by Tift Merritt, from Sugar, excerpt

“Finest Feelings” by Tift Merritt, from Sugar

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- Joe Kendrick

Artist stereotypes do not apply

How many times have parents cringed when their children fell in love with a musician? Let's be honest, the world has looked askance at artists of all stripes (with notable exceptions) for most of our history. Musicians tend to be thought of as people who may be great at their art but who are nonetheless pretty bad at life skills like paying bills, getting to work on time, and sticking with the missus.

Aaron turns all those stereotypes on their head; he is not only a fantastic songwriter and musician, but he also runs his own construction business and is a devoted family man living a stone's throw from where he grew up in the western NC mountains. He is as meticulous and intense about his guitar and ballads as he is about his green built homes and raising his two girls.

As you'll see in our pilot episode, Aaron does both life and art exceptionally well. The folks around him are a big part of that.